Lost Love: It's Predestined, You Have Many Soul Mates & You'll Love Again

Losing a loved one is a heart wrenching experience

to say the least.

Although finding the strength to move on with one's

life after such an experience takes time, it can be

done.

Gratitude is wonderful for helping to overcome grief.

Be grateful for the love you had, the experiences you

shared, what you currently have in your life, and what

will be in the future.

The closer the connection, the more difficult the

separation, but it helps to realize that everyone has

more than one soul mate. Some are more compatible

than others, but all are meant to enter and leave your

life when they do, meaning all relationships appear to

be spiritually contracted, including the length of time

to be spent together. Expectations of "growing old"

with a partner are the norm in our society, but in

many cases it's not meant to be.

As we wrote in our book Your Love Life and Reincarnation

http://www.holisticmakeover.com/about_the_book.htm,

published in 2002, almost all relationships include karmic

ties. In other words, one person owes the other, they both

owe each other and their connection is necessary for

growth and payback, or a similar situation exists. Perhaps

there is unfinished business or the two souls agreed,

before incarnating, to reunite in order to learn some

lessons or accomplish a certain goal.

For someone grieving from the loss of a loved one, we

would like to suggest a new outlook. In our Nov. 10th,

2006 column titled Redefining How You Perceive New Love

Interests, we recommend viewing love interests as

opportunities for growth and allowing them to be what

they're meant to be, rather than all or nothing, or

assuming they'll be "the one" for life. Such an outlook

eases the difficulty of accepting what is and what is to

be, that which you can't change.

Loss can be devastating, but at least with this perspective,

it can be easier to digest when it doesn't work out as it

"should have." Although that seems to deflate romantic

notions of "forever," know that love really is forever on

a spiritual level, not on this physical plane. It's helpful

to view soul progression in lifetimes, not just one

existence, as each soul has an agenda that stretches

throughout time.

That brings us to the popular phrase, "love of your life."

Perhaps "love of your life so far" or "one of the loves of

your life" are much more appropriate since you haven't

lived your entire life and met all the potential love

interests yet. This way of thinking does not diminish

what you had with past loves since every relationship is

different, and you may have a lot to look forward to no

matter what your age.

Is a lost love destined? Is feeling a deep sense of loss

a natural part of personal fate? We believe so, since

the comprehensive astrology and numerology charts clearly

indicate unions and separations, among other circumstances.

Most experience the loss of love at one time or another.

It may be someone they didn't know that well, someone with

whom they were involved for years, or even someone they

are still involved with but the spark has died for one or

both.

From a spiritual perspective, feeling a sense of loss

serves any number of purposes, including, but not

limited to the following: it allows you to appreciate

more what you had (and will have again); it allows

you to experience first-hand the cyclical nature of life;

and in some cases, it may even allow you to balance

the scales of karma for the loss others experienced

due to your actions in the past. But don't feel guilty

over the possibility of past life negative actions as

long as you are "doing the right thing" in all

situations during this life.

For those who lost a love that may have seemed like

"the one," even though you never had the chance to

come together, this type of love loss can also be

upsetting, especially if there is a strong past life

connection. Perhaps you met and spent time together

at work or on vacation. Although the connection has

run its course, you still think about the person a lot.

However, if you had spent more time together, you

may have realized that the person only represented

what you wanted or felt you needed in your love life.

"What could have been" may have been more of a

fantasy. The time spent together was all that was

meant to be, for now, maybe, in part, to further

establish a link to be continued on a much deeper

level the next time around. Remember, the spiritual

reasons for the events in your life may seem illogical,

and the fated outcome is often at odds with plans,

expectations, and hopes.

For those who lost a very compatible and rewarding

relationship, past life regression is a great tool to

return to a lifetime where you were also together in

a loving relationship, and even to a future lifetime

(through future progression) when you'll have the

opportunity to love each other again. It will also help

to calm your mind and heart to realize this lifetime is

just a part of a long tapestry of love.

For those who had to leave a relationship due to

dangerous circumstances, such as abuse, alcoholism

or drugs, but still cannot seem to let go of the

person, cut the spiritual ties that bind. Consciously

and visually surround yourself with White Light, cut

any cords connecting you and the other person, and

fill the empty places where the cords were with White

Light. Do this daily until you feel the effects and

ask for spiritual help in the process, from whomever

you pray to. Let go of them and any anger the best

you can. Forgiveness will heal you and help you move

on.

Every relationship is different and even though

grieving for a lost love isn't easy, know that there

may be a future lover waiting in the wings for a

relationship that is even better than you have ever

imagined. But dwelling on "what could have been"

or your loss will not help to usher in a happier

future.

Also know that, based on past life regression

research, you have likely loved hundreds of times

or more in hundreds, if not thousands (or many

more) of past lives. It's also possible that you will

be with that person in a future life, in one way or

another, when the timing is better for both of you.

In the mean time, let go of this person the best you

can. This will not release the memory of them from

your life or the possibility of being together again,

but remove them as a potential block in your

current love life.

Scott Petullo

http://www.mystictwins.com/ 

Stephen Petullo

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