If a woman is attracted to a man, it's in her best interest
to tell him. Many guys won't flirt or make it clear that
they are romantically interested in you until you make it
obvious that you are interested too. Don't over-analyze it,
just go with the flow and realize that rejection, if it
happens, is just part of the dating process.
It's best to avoid thinking in all-or-nothing terms (the
beginning of a wonderful relationship, or nothing). Just
let it be what it's meant to be. Most relationships, no
matter how brief, offer valuable rewards and lessons.
Too many people expect a new love interest to be "the one"
and avoid those who aren't exactly all they demand in a
partner (and too often, they personally don't even meet
those excessive demands). After a date or two they learn
that the person does not fulfill every single item on their
ideal romantic partner list, so they bail and start looking
for the next one (or stay with that person until they find
another so they don't have to be alone).
It's a good idea to remember to let each connection be
what it's meant to be and stop looking for perfection and
expecting your date to be what he or she "should" be. Very
few people you'll meet will be even close to "the one" and
you'll only enjoy longer term, rewarding, hassle-free,
compatible love relationships if you've earned them, in a
karmic sense (as can be outlined through comprehensive
numerological and astrological charting).
Being together in a fulfilling decades-long relationship
is the fate, in our view, of some couples. Also, being
married or partnered in a strictly monogamous relationship
for 20, 40, or even 60 years is desired by many, but is it
always for the highest good of all involved? No. To think
that you can avoid complacency and growing apart, and
to demand emotional, mental, romantic, and sexual
fulfillment for decades with the same person (especially
when two people marry young) is silly. A better approach
is to drop all expectations upon entering a relationship.
If it's destined to be long-term, great. If not, be grateful
for the experience, wish him or her well, and move on.
Rarely, if ever, do people know all the hidden, behind-closed
-doors details about those dear, elderly couples who stay
together for decades. Remember, you were blacklisted from
society only a couple generations ago if you got divorced, so
some couples stayed together, suffered, and played the game
to avoid being ostracized. Plus, men and women had fixed,
specific roles back then, so if they divorced, who would cook
for him and who would do the yard work for her?
Today, many still hope to have a "lifetime" relationship, but
an increasing number are acknowledging that divorce is
reasonable for couples that grow apart. If handled maturely
and fairly, divorce can be a good thing for both people (and
if it's unavoidably a more challenging situation, then, in our
view, it was meant to be that way). Those who refuse to
acknowledge this seem to have dependency problems, fear about
being financially secure, have difficulty being alone, have a
rough time with change, or perceive relationships too
idealistically.
More and more people are accepting the notion that if one
person is unhappy and wants out, then it's pointless to stay
together, and selfish of the other person if he demands she
stay. You might say, "what about the kids?" Kids know if
their parents are just going through the motions and doing
so sets a bad example. Besides, a family doesn't have to
"break up" if the parents are both mature enough to remain
friends, or at least civil and fair to each other.
By the way, we advocate legal agreements (however "unromantic"
they may seem) between two adults before having any children,
whether or not they get married, to protect the children and
help minimize future disagreements and problems between their
parents.
What you hope for in your romantic life might be destined, but
if it's not, as long as you react to fate with unconditional
love and compassion, you'll be on good ground.
Scott Petullo
http://www.mystictwins.com/
http://www.holisticmakeover.com/
Stephen Petullo
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