Cheating, Infidelity, Spirituality, and Marriage: 7 Ways to Betray Your Spouse

One of the most popular love topics people ask us

about is infidelity and how it relates to fate

and karma.

The American Heritage English Dictionary defines

infidelity as "Lack of fidelity or loyalty, especially

to a spouse." It defines fidelity as "Faithfulness to

obligations or duties."

Let's consider several forms of infidelity, besides

cheating.

1. Withholding affection, and s.e.x in your marriage

or relationship, for whatever reason, causes a huge

divide between you and your partner. Respect

deteriorates, as does trust. Everyone wants to be

valued and needed. If someone is denied affection

or s.e.x in their relationship, they may feel justified

in getting it elsewhere. Would that incur negative

karma, you ask? If it involved lying and deception,

it's likely to, as would using sex as a bargaining chip

or manipulation tool in a relationship.

2. Being fiscally irresponsible.

3. Allowing yourself to become unattractive to your

partner, such as gaining a lot of weight, is considered

by some just as bad as fooling around behind your

partner's back.

4. Suddenly ignoring your partner's emotional needs

or their need to connect with you on any other level,

such as intellectual.

5. Carrying on an emotionally intimate relationship

with a person other than your spouse, flirting 

(in-person and online), and even fantasizing about

someone other than your spouse (even though

from a spiritual viewpoint, it's natural) could be

considered forms of infidelity. Some have asked us

if we believe mutually agreed upon non-monogamy

creates negative karma and our response is always

"no," if you are honest and act responsibly with all

involved.

6. Not making time spent with your partner a

priority, while always going out with your friends

instead could be considered a form of infidelity.

7. Promising to cook and run the household in

return for your significant other providing financially,

then failing to uphold your end of the bargain after

getting married is infidelity and also creates negative

karma.

Changing your tune in any way that disappoints

your partner, after the commitment has been made,

could be considered a form of infidelity. This also 

applies to unspoken agreements and when a person

has represented themselves to be a certain way.

In an attempt to maintain fidelity (and in some

cases, ignore destiny and karma), prenuptial

agreements are common today. Some think prenups

should also include things like how household chores

will be divided, and exactly how much s.e.x

(frequency, style, required attitude about it,

etc.) will be included in the union.

After all, as traditional marriage is a legally-binding

agreement, like a business arrangement, each partner

could be said to be legally obligated to uphold their

part of the deal.

It's unknown what exactly a partner would do in 5,

10, 20, or more years if they're not getting what

they want and need in their relationship. Therefore,

taking a business-like approach to love (legally-

binding agreement, i.e., marriage certificate)

demands business-like negotiations prior to the

event in the interest of fairness and to protect

both parties.

Not very romantic, you say? Neither is a 60%

divorce rate in the U.S. and the fact that many

(statistics say about 50%) of those who don't

divorce are cheating.

However, from a spiritual viewpoint, you can't

expect your lover to act a certain way and then 

honestly say you are expressing unconditional

love. Unconditional means that you are expecting

nothing in return. Yet in today's world, where life

savings, businesses, careers, the security of

childrenand more are at stake, a less than

pragmatic approach with relationships is often

regretted.

Attempts to re-write personal fate and avoid your

karma with a legally-binding contract may never be

successful, but openly and realistically discussing

hopes and expectations in the beginning of a

relationship will at least help now. Putting them

in writing will help later.

If one disappoints, should the other be f.r.e.e to 

investigate other options without financial or other

penalties? Perhaps that should be part of the

contract as well.

Scott Petullo

http://www.mystictwins.com/

http://www.scottpetullo.com/

Stephen Petullo

http://www.holisticmakeover.com/

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