Single versus Being in a Relationship: Best 17 Reasons to Enjoy Being Single

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By scottpetullo

Pressure from sociological forces such as TV
programming, movies, advertising, family, and
friends dictate that you must pair off for a
long-term relationship and join the herd or
"couples only" club.
 
While this is easy for those who happen to be
fated to have a relationship with a compatible,
long-term partner, what about everyone else?
 
Based on our extensive empirical research, you 
meet who you're meant to meet when you're 
meant to meet them. For those who don't meet 
"the one" before age 30, 40, or whatever other 
age they feel they're supposed to secure a 
"permanent" partner, it can cause a lot of
anxiety and even depression.
 
If you're single, rather than focusing on what
you don't have in your love life, we recommend 
embracing the benefits; there are many of being 
on your own, and we list some of them below.
 
1) Freedom. As a single person, you can do what 
you want, when you want. Yes, in a karmic sense,
everything you do, say, and intend comes back to
you either in this life and more often in a future
life, but when you're single you aren't accountable
to anyone else.
 
2) No compromising. Even people in compatible 
relationships need to compromise occasionally.
As a single person, you don't need to surrender 
anything unless you choose to.
 
3) More time to focus on other areas of your life. 
Career, health, friendship, and other goals can
take center stage with all the energy you need to 
accomplish them.
 
4) No in-laws. As a single person, there are no
obligations to spend time with people you may
not really want to.
 
5) Solo vacations are fun (you meet more people).
 
6) If you live alone, your space is yours to do with
as you please.
 
7) You can live out your fantasies, within ethical
and legal boundaries, and no one will try to stop you
or tell you that you are "wrong" if they don't happen
to agree.
 
8) You never have to deal with telling someone it's
over and having them try to guilt you into staying
together.
 
9) No pressure to perform in bed when you don't
feel like it.
 
10) You can flirt with anyone you want and not feel
guilty.
 
11) You never have to be concerned or anxious
about whether or not your partner is living up to
his or her promises when you're not around.
 
12) You can be intimate with who you want, when
you want (responsibly and safely, of course).
 
13) Being single means you're operating in your
flow, at your pace, and you're not psychically blown
off course by another person.
 
14) No pressure to do what you're "supposed to" do
on holidays (e.g., Valentine's day, etc.).
 
15) No emotionally unhealthy reliance on others to
be your "everything," which always leads to 
disappointment, or pressure from another to fulfill
all their needs.
 
16) Your m.o.n.e.y is your m.o.n.e.y and you aren't 
responsible for a partner who may not make good 
financial choices.
 
17) Everyone changes and evolves at different rates.
Because you're single, you don't have to put your
relationship ahead of your spiritual growth, or feel
guilty about leaving a partner behind if they choose
not to be the best they can be or if you've grown
apart to the point of no return.
 
If you mistakenly buy into the myth that you need
a partner to be happy, being single can be lonely
at times. But on a spiritual and soul level, you
are never really alone, so enjoy your days of being
single while you can.
 
Scott Petullo
http://www.mystictwins.com/
http://www.scottpetullo.com/
 
Stephen Petullo
http://www.holisticmakeover.com/
 
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Comments

Fiction Writer 4 years ago

Great Hub Scott! I know so many people who settle just so they can have someone in their life. I'd rather be single and happy then married and miserable. I agree with you regarding the social pressure and media messages that equate romantic relationships with living happily ever after. My teenage daughter is already feeling the pressure to date even though she's not emotionally ready. I think it's more important she find herself at this age then find a boyfriend.

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kimcnoche 3 years ago

This is a great hub! Yes being single is okay. But we can't deny the fact that it's also sad. Sometimes you want to cry but no one is there to dry your tears.

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scottpetullo Hub Author 3 years ago

Thanks for the feedback, Kim.

Hang in there,Scott

Dont read my name! 2 years ago

It seems like you're never happy. You know like when you're in a relationship you secretly miss being free. And when you are single you have all this freedom but you're also kinda lonely :(

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scottpetullo Hub Author 2 years ago

Thanks for the feedback, Don't Read My Name.

Scott

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msorensson Level 3 Commenter 2 years ago

Perfect!!!

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Miss Info 2 years ago

Interesting

Kegomoditswe Gaodumelwe 20 months ago

Yeh z kool 2 be single since you aclimatised......

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scottpetullo Hub Author 20 months ago

Thanks for your comments, Melinda, Kegomoditswe Gaodumelwe, and Miss Info.

Scott

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Kind Regards 17 months ago

scottpetullo, Perfect list and exactly why I love being single and alone. Kind Regards

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scottpetullo Hub Author 17 months ago

Thanks for your feedback, Kind Regards.

Scott

cortieg 14 months ago

I hate the term single and alone. Friendships are just like relationships, just without sex. A lot of the time going from long term relationship to long term relationship can hinder strong friendship bonds. If one keeps tight family and friendship ties then being alone or "lonely" shouldn't be a problem... the only thing lacking would just be the physical connection mixed with the strong sense of emotional loyalty. However, making true, long friendships can be just as difficult as finding a mate though.

Thanks for your article!

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scottpetullo Hub Author 14 months ago

cortieg, thanks for offering your point of view. Seems true about true, long-term friendships.

Scott

pete 14 months ago

Your right single is the way to go in braking up tonight. I need to search my soul its so hard but I need to do it.

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scottpetullo Hub Author 14 months ago

Thanks for your feedback, Pete.

Scott

Shane 7 months ago

After these 17 reasons, I start to thinking about breaking up with my girlfriend. We have been in the relationship for a year and a half and seems its doesn't work well with us. Will post letter how I'm going with this.

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scottpetullo Hub Author 7 months ago

Thanks for your comment, Shane. Good luck with it.

Scott

3 months ago

Wow. Just wow. This article could have been written by me if I had the courage. Very inspiring....in a relationship now where I am thoroughly longing for those 17 things.

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scottpetullo Hub Author 3 months ago

Thanks for your comment, J. You could write a hub, "Things I am longing for."

Scott

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